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Browse through all the chapters of my life story

This dedication does not reopen doors or explain history it acknowledges truth, and then steps aside so the story can speak.
This book is dedicated to those who walked beside me, whether for a season or for a lifetime. To Sheila, who shared the earlier chapters of my life, and whose presence shaped the years when everything was being built. To My Children, who shaped the man I became, often without knowing it. To ...
Introduction
Introduction

Introduction

Welcome to My Story

I’ve never been much of a reader, but in recent months, with time on my hands, I found myself wandering into the local library. The shelves seemed endless, filled with books of every kind. Eventually, I drifted toward the autobiographies. I’d never read one before, but I thought, why not? They...
The Beginning: February 18, 1940 — Sutton Coldfield, Birmingham, UK
Chapter 1

The Beginning: February 18, 1940 — Sutton Coldfield, Birmingham, UK

The "Royal" designation was granted to Sutton Coldfield in 1528 by King Henry VIII. This recognition was due to its historical association with the royal family and its importance as a center of hunting grounds and woodlands used by the monarchy.

What time to arrive on this earth! I arrived in the world on Sunday, 18th February 1940, in the Royal Town of Sutton Coldfield, at 20 Antrobus Road. “Royal” Sutton Coldfield had earned its title in 1528 from King Henry VIII, who prized its hunting grounds and woodlands. The Second W...
Epping Forest
Chapter 2

Epping Forest

Waltham Abby Epping The town is named and renowned for its former abbey, the last in England to be dissolved, now the Abbey Church of Waltham Holy Cross and St Lawrence a scheduled ancient monument and the town's parish church.

Waltham Abbey Our family moved to Waltham Abbey, a town famous for its ancient abbey — the last in England to be dissolved — now known as the Abbey Church of Waltham Holy Cross and St Lawrence. The town, steeped in history, lay on the edge of Epping Forest, a vast woodland alive with deer, f...
Start of my childhood in Dover
Chapter 3

Start of my childhood in Dover

DOVER is a town and major ferry port in Kent, South East England. It faces France across the Strait of Dover, the narrowest part of the English Channel at 33 kilometres (21 mi) from Cap Gris Nez in France.

Start of My Childhood in DoverAfter the war, our family moved to Dover, a busy ferry port in Kent, just across the Channel from France. Mum and Dad were entrepreneurs and became the first in town to obtain a hotelier’s license after the war. With that, they opened Claire House, a guesthouse a...
After isolation
Chapter 4

After isolation

Growing Up in Dover Dover in the 1950s remained scarred by the ravages of war, with bomb sites and debris still littering the landscape long after the conflict had ceased...

Growing Up Too Soon Growing up in Dover in the early 1950s, the town still carried the visible scars of war. Bomb sites lay open between rows of houses, and rubble stood as quiet reminders of a conflict that had only recently ended. After being cleared from the hospital, I returned home to Cla...
Clare House
Chapter 5

Clare House

Life's twists and turns often unfold swiftly, leaving us with little control over the course of events .

Life’s twists and turns often unfold swiftly, leaving little control over the course of events. After Michael and Irene were married, they remained at Claire House for a few months before moving out. Biddy continued to be a great help to my mother, providing much-needed support during this cha...
Finding My Way: Leaving Clare House
Chapter 6

Finding My Way: Leaving Clare House

The Bull Hotel was no ordinary place to begin a career. Dating back to the 1300s, it had once served as a coaching inn along the Pilgrim’s Way and later became a notorious haunt for smuggling gangs. During the Second World War, it was a favourite watering hole for fighter pilots, many of whom left their signatures on the ceiling of the public bar. By the time I arrived in 1958, the Bull carried all that history with it—a place steeped in stories, now bustling with guests, fine dining, and the promise of opportunity for a young waiter like me.

When I look back now, I realise I was not yet sixteen years old. I stayed with the family for another two years or so, remaining close at hand in case my mother or Phillip needed me. During that time, I completed a couple more seasons with Townsend Ferries. At the start of my fourth season, I ...
Red Lion Cottages with Henry
Chapter 7

Red Lion Cottages with Henry

Stoke Green Cricket Club in Stoke Green has been playing there since 1879 with support of the then landowner, Howard-Vyse of Stoke Place.Stoke Poges Golf Club at Stoke Park used to run a cricket club in the early 20th century, playing home matches in Farnham Royal

Red Lion Cottage and New Beginnings I arrived at Red Lion Cottage after tendering my resignation at the Bull Hotel. The cottages, just outside Slough in the quaint village of Stoke Green, formed a charming row of eight detached homes, each with long, manicured gardens. Sheila’s father, Henry...
Swan Hotel
Chapter 8

Swan Hotel

Stratford-upon-Avon — the home of William Shakespeare and a theatre-rich market town — had more than 800 years of history, with buildings that Shakespeare himself might have known. Even then, the town was alive with a thriving community, offering leisure, accommodation, and shopping experiences.

A Summer at The White Swan in Stratford-upon-Avon —  was the perfect setting for the next chapter of our lives. Its timber-framed buildings, cobblestone streets, and rich cultural heritage offered a blend of charm, history, and modern amenities. In those days, information wasn’t at our f...
A New Career
Chapter 9

A New Career

From Hospitality to the Post Office

Hospitality, I came to realise, could be an unsociable trade, with long hours spent working evenings, weekends, and public holidays. Seeking a more stable and fulfilling career, I began exploring other opportunities. Eventually, I came across an advertisement for a career with the Post Office,...
A New Beginning: Herne Bay and Home ownership
Chapter 10

A New Beginning: Herne Bay and Home ownership

Herne Bay, a seaside town on the north coast of Kent, lies just six miles north of Canterbury. It had risen to prominence as a resort in the early 19th century after the construction of a pleasure pier and promenade and reached its heyday in the late Victorian era. For us, it represented the promise of a fresh start.

A Place of Our Own The situation at Red Lion Cottages had become too volatile. Our small bubble had burst, and we needed to find somewhere else to live. I found myself in an awkward position, trying to keep the peace with Sheila while also securing accommodation we could actually afford. Rent...
Shifting Ground: From Albion Place to Dungeness
Balancing Acts and Hard Choices After settling into our new home over several months, and with a reduction in my wages at the Post Office, it became clear that I would need to supplement our income to meet our growing financial responsibilities. Drawing on my background in catering, I began ...
Whitfield and the Ferries
Chapter 12

Whitfield and the Ferries

The History of Whitfield, Kent The village of Whitfield has grown so that it is now physically connected to urban Dover, Kent, yet it has kept its own identity and sense of place. The central core of modern Whitfield was, however, not the original heart of the village; the original settlement was sited at Church Whitfield to the east. Pineham, located to the east of Church Whitfield is a small rural hamlet that is often considered part of the Whitfield community. It contains a small handful of farms and houses..

Putting Down Roots Selling our little house in Albion Place marked the beginning of another new chapter. With the modest profit from the sale, we were able to buy a modern semi-detached house at 42 Allison Crescent in Whitfield, a quiet village just outside Dover. It felt like the right move...
The Strike and the Dream of New Zealand
When the Ground Shifted By the mid-1960s, Townsend Ferries were expanding their fleet. Following my promotion to Second Steward on Free Enterprise I, I was offered the opportunity to join the crew of their newest ship, Free Enterprise II, which was due to open a new route between Dover and Z...
Setting Sail for a New Life
Chapter 14

Setting Sail for a New Life

Leaving the UK: The Journey Begins

The decision had been made months before, yet the reality only truly hit as we packed the last of our belongings. I remember standing in the half-empty rooms of Mayfield Road, listening to the echoes of a life we were leaving behind, and feeling a strange mixture of relief, fear, and anticipat...
Across the Seas: The Journey to New Zealand
Chapter 15

Across the Seas: The Journey to New Zealand

From Tearful Goodbyes to Bright Tomorrows: The Journey South

With the children settled and the last goodbyes behind us, the ship itself became our world — a moving bubble where each day brought new sights, sounds, and small adventures. Days blurred into one another: meals in the dining hall, the children chasing each other across the deck, evenings stan...
A Kiwi Home, a Flying Career, and a New Chapter for Our Family
Chapter 16

A Kiwi Home, a Flying Career, and a New Chapter for Our Family

Auckland in the 1960sAuckland, is based around 2 large harbours, is a major city in the north of New Zealand’s North Island. In the centre, the iconic Sky Tower has views of Viaduct Harbour, which is full of superyachts and lined with bars and cafes. Auckland Domain, the city’s oldest park, is based around an extinct volcano and home to the formal Wintergardens. Near Downtown, Mission Bay Beach has a seaside promenade

Arriving in New Zealand, we quickly began exploring the local area and were charmed by the names of our new surroundings: Takapuna, Mairangi Bay, Milford, Glenfield, Northcote, Birkenhead, Beach Haven, and Devonport. The North Shore had a coastline of golden beaches, and with children in tow, ...
Dreams Woven in Yarn and Sky: The Birth of Magner Knitwear
After the first year or so, we completed the retaining walls, a condition of our mortgage requiring a wall along the driveway. The surrounding garden was laid out and tended with the help of Henry, who had once worked as a gardener at a royal estate in Wrexham, Bucks, UK. Anything he planted s...
Turning the Page: Family, Flight, and Fresh Beginnings
Chapter 18

Turning the Page: Family, Flight, and Fresh Beginnings

We faced yet another life-changing decision: we could either remain a small cottage industry or take the leap to expand into a larger manufacturing operation. We went from working out of our home base to relocating and getting the machinery and stock out of the home

  The demands of Air New Zealand had reached a tipping point. Jumbo jets were now a regular part of the fleet, and the long-haul flights stretched across six time zones, leaving little room to recover between trips. I found myself rostered on a gruelling 19-day journey: Auckland – Honolul...
The Timeless Joy of New Zealand
Chapter 19

The Timeless Joy of New Zealand

The Years We Almost Didn’t Count

I never really thought about my age or how old I was — New Zealand had that kind of effect on you. Life here was so laid-back it almost felt timeless. Perhaps it was because we were genuinely happy, immersed in the simple rhythms of everyday life, that age rarely crossed my mind. We were too b...
A Journey Back to Where It All Began
Chapter 20

A Journey Back to Where It All Began

What I Had Missed Most My Mother and my four brothers—Michael, Lionel, David, and Phillip

Returning to the UK after more than a decade in New Zealand was both exhilarating and strangely surreal. As the plane descended beneath familiar grey skies, the crisp British air felt like a memory I hadn’t realised I was missing. Everything was recognisable, yet my years abroad had subtl...
Looking after The Sussex Restaurant
In the mid-seventies, as the children grew older, I developed an interest in taking them to different restaurants. This was partly for my benefit, as I still had a strong inclination to hospitality. In the earlier days, as I believe I've mentioned in a previous chapter, we used to host full-on...
Redvale and Beyond
Chapter 22

Redvale and Beyond

You might think, “This guy has it made—he’s been in New Zealand for just 15 years, owns a six-bedroom home with a swimming pool, and has raised five children. All he has to do now is sit back, find some part-time work, and enjoy life.

Well, think again. Life had other plans for me. After Magner Knitwear, I found myself on a new path, one that led through three more businesses and three more homes. Each step brought fresh challenges, unexpected turns, and—sometimes—outright chaos.Growing Glasshouse Tomatoes at Redvale The f...
The Kitchen
Chapter 23

The Kitchen

A Small Premises with Big Flavours: Quiches, Cakes and Muffins Galore

After our time at Redvale, the next venture was something quite different: food manufacturing. We called it simply The Kitchen. At first glance, it was a modest operation, but it was packed with energy, potential, and a surprising variety of products. We produced quiches, cheesecakes, desserts...
El Greco Pizza's
Chapter 24

El Greco Pizza's

El Greco – A Slice of Success From Pizza Tosses to Life-Changing Questions

El Greco was a great little business. Our main trade was takeaway pastas and pizzas, with a small dining room that could accommodate a dozen or so patrons. We bought the shop from two Greek fellows who insisted—quite emphatically—that it was the Greeks, not the Italians, who invented pizza. We...
From Britannia to Pizza – My Australian Culinary Adventure
Chapter 25

From Britannia to Pizza – My Australian Culinary Adventure

Navigating the World Expo, Running a Traditional English Pub, and Discovering the Complexities of a Pizza Franchise

Landing in Brisbane – The 1988 World Expo We arrived in Brisbane in the second week of April 1988, just as the World Expo opened. The Expo was set to run until October, and it was the perfect opportunity to find employment. With my roots in the UK, I applied to work at the English stand and w...
Bali Hai: Sunshine and Shadows
Chapter 26

Bali Hai: Sunshine and Shadows

Sheila’s Withdrawal and My Quiet Battles Within

We owe it all to Cliff and Zoe. It’s a great story that truly shows how some people go out of their way to help others.I first knew Matt Miller from Air NZ—he was senior to me, and we flew together many times in my early days with the airline. After I left Air NZ, I lost touch with everyone. T...
Quicksand on Caxton Street
Chapter 27

Quicksand on Caxton Street

The restaurant that pulled me under, and the hard lessons of ambition

After the Bali Hai, Cliff was eager to find employment for his son, Gary, and suggested a trip down to Brisbane to explore opportunities. His idea was bold: he would buy a building on Caxton Street, while I would purchase and run a restaurant within it. I would pay him rent and employ Gary. On...
When the Tide Turned
Chapter 28

When the Tide Turned

Dreams by the sea, promises broken, and the cost of walking away

After selling Café Mediterraneo at a loss, I was restless. Against my better judgment, I sold our Paddington apartment — a decision I regret to this day. Sheila was upset, and I wasn’t thinking clearly. We had lined up a rental in New Farm, but the day before we were due to move in, the deal f...
A New Beginning
Chapter 29

A New Beginning

🌿 “Journeys Shared, Challenges Faced, Memories Made”

Keren first came into my life as a guest, staying with us during a holiday. At the time, she was simply a bystander, yet we quickly discovered a connection. Despite the years between us, we shared a love of music, films, and long conversations that seemed to bridge the gap. When my relationshi...
Finding Strength in the Chaos
Chapter 30

Finding Strength in the Chaos

Phillip’s fight, and the strength of being there

Phillip’s Tumour Life has a way of testing us in unexpected ways. When Karen returned to the UK to care for her father, the lease on the apartment we had been living in Australia came to an end. I placed our furniture and belongings into storage and, when the time came, returned to Australia ...
“Threads of My Life”
Chapter 31

“Threads of My Life”

“The Joy, the Love, and the Lessons They Gave Me”

My Children As I look back on my life, I realise that no story of mine would be complete without remembering my children — Paul, Julia, Kathryn, Phillip, and Carolyn. They are the threads that run through every chapter, shaping my choices, my joys, and my sorrows. Though distance and circumsta...
A Christmas That Never Came
Chapter 32

A Christmas That Never Came

When Silence, Misunderstanding, and Conflict Changed Everything

Chapter: An Unexpected Coda After the previous chapter, I believed my story had reached its end. I felt I had said what I needed to say and that the past, however imperfect, had been honestly recorded. Yet events over the following weeks unsettled me deeply, and I have found that I cann...
Epilogue -- Reflections on Life, Love, and What Remains
Epilogue

Epilogue -- Reflections on Life, Love, and What Remains

“I leave behind no riches, only the truth of a life lived fully.”

In writing the previous chapter, I needed to set down events exactly as I experienced them — not to dwell on them, but to release them. Some things in life do not resolve neatly, and learning to accept that has been one of my hardest lessons. What matters now is choosing peace, valuing the rel...